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Saturday, December 02, 2006

I don’t know if any one noticed that I have been a little M.I.A. lately.
This past week has been so stressful and emotional.

Little over a week ago I found out that my nineteen year old, unemployed, uninsured and very immature daughter is pregnant. She was over a week late so I made her take a home test. It was positive. Not a total shock because she has been pretty much living with her boyfriend for the past three months, sadly I think it is all too predictable.

Next I called around and found a near by teen pregnancy center. We had to wait a few days for their late night because I work during the day and I took her in for another test and prayed that it would prove the first one wrong. When the second showed positive, I broke down. At that point no matter what she chose to do, I knew there were some very hard days were ahead.

It took her about four days to decide that she is going to have the baby.
So, the past couple of days have been filled with phone calls and making appointments to find government programs and a doctor.

I guess just knowing what we are dealing with, I feel some what better then I did a week ago. She will be twenty years old by the time she has the baby, three years older then I was when I had her. My mother and grandmother were also very young.
I was just really hoping that both my girls would not be following this cycle in our family of young, unprepared mothers. Even though I know things always work out. It is such a hard road!

Jenn • 12:04 PM • (0) Trackbacks

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Oh wow, she’s pregnant? I am in shock a bit. Then again, she is 19 and legally an adult. It’s still hard to imagine that you will be a grandmother. Let us hope her boyfriend is a real man and stands up to help. Hmph!

HUGS from me to you, toots.

Lana  on  12/02  at  04:03 PM
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I wish u all the best in this difficult but maybe also happy time.

 on  12/02  at  09:54 PM
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I can’t imagine what you and your daughter must be going through but I wanted to let you know that I think it’s admirable that you are standing by her. She has a lot of rough days ahead of her, as do you. Take care of both of your selves. *hugs*

Daisyhead  on  12/02  at  10:36 PM
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Yeah, I noticed you were missing.

I was kind of hoping it was because you were busy going overboard with the buying yourself a lavish gift idea from your last post.  Though admittedly, that had sort of previewed that SOMETHING was going on.

I;m hoping for the best for all involved.

Latte Man  on  12/02  at  10:58 PM
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Jenn, It will all work out. I was 16 when I had my daughter. It was very hard, but did manage to get thru it. Now that my daughter just turned 16, I’ve kinda been holding my breath. I too do not want the cycle to continue. I’m to young to be a grandma!!

Keep your head up.....

 on  12/03  at  09:28 AM
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I wish you two the best, and I congratulate you for standing by her.

It’ll all work out, don’t worry. smile

Danny  on  12/03  at  02:28 PM
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Hopefully this will force her to grow up and mature so that she can be a good, and responsible parent.

Bev  on  12/03  at  04:30 PM
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*hugs* Is there much in our lives that we are ever REALLY ready for? You seem to me to be a great mom and she is lucky to have you and the baby is too.

Rori  on  12/03  at  08:50 PM
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Congratulations on the grandbaby-to-be! 

My mother had just turned twenty when she had me.  An aunt turned twenty right after having my cousin.  We’re all fine and dandy so I’m a big believer in “things work out.”

http://www.birthnetwork.org/ is a good resource for local mother-friendly pregnancy-and-birth resources.  http://womensdocs.com/index.htm is a practice with some great OBs and midwives.

Deirdre  on  12/03  at  09:30 PM
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*hugs* I’m here for you if you need someone to talk to!  (I mean that!)

hip momma  on  12/04  at  10:51 AM
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Hang in there.  It is going to be a tough road, but it will be easier if you guys are there for each other!!!

soapbox.SUPERSTAR  on  12/04  at  11:30 AM
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Hi granny!

Oops, sorry. 

Yes, she’s young(ish), but she has loads of support from you, it seems. 

Wow.  I am SO not ready for my little girl to grow up wink

Ben (a different ben)  on  12/04  at  12:21 PM
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She has a great mom and a wonderful support system.  I am sure it will all work out.  *hugs* Hang in there babe.

mel  on  12/07  at  01:45 PM
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I’m sure this has been a shock for you...but I have a feeling things will be fine!  You’re much too young to be a grandmother, tho wink

Janet  on  12/08  at  11:40 PM
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Yup news like that is a shocker but as you said knowing is better than not. Hang in there and keep your chin up - although I forget it all the time - life only hands us what we can deal with.

Michelle  on  12/10  at  11:19 AM
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